Being a foster parent is such an admirable and wonderful decision. Although the road may be challenging (as is any parenting journey!), it is so rewarding. However, if you are considering bringing disabled foster children into your home, you must have a strong and intentional transition plan in place.
Children with disabilities, especially physical disabilities, can be a lot to navigate. This isn’t to say these children are “tougher,” or more of a “burden;” it simply means you have to be prepared, empathetic, and understanding of their needs.
Before bringing a child (any child!) into your home, it’s important to be purposeful in your planning, take adequate time to prepare, and have collective goals for your home—and future life together!
Here are a few tips:
Consider How You Will Get Around
One of the main priorities is getting your foster kid(s) around. This is pretty straightforward with able-bodied children, but it takes some changes and consideration when it comes to a child with a physical disability.
For example, when it comes to vehicles, children with disabilities may have special access needs. Unfortunately, not all cars are suitable. Fortunately, most manufacturers like Ford, VW and Skoda have roomy models that will make it easier. Some cars also offer specially adapted models made specifically for those with physical limitations.
Research Your Child’s Specific Needs
This can’t be stressed enough — know what to expect before bringing a child into your home! Researching their medical condition prepares you mentally, and it also ensures that your child will feel more safe, welcomed, and accepted because you understand their lifestyle.
Outside of accommodations and physical changes that may need to happen in your home, also be conscious of the extra needs and/or attention your disabled foster children might ask of you. By preparing yourself, you won’t feel as overwhelmed and can have more time and energy to give.
Adapt the Home for Disabled Foster Children
Adapting your home for foster children with special needs can be a significant and challenging task. You may have to install ramps, handrails, lifts, hoists, etc. for an effective, mobile lifestyle.
In countries like the UK and the US, assistance is available from the government and charities to help with any necessary adaptations you may have to make to your home.
However, recognize that there will be costs. But, remember that every penny you spend is so incredibly worth it.
Stock Up on Special Dietary Foods
Children with disabilities may also have special dietary needs. Almost all pre-packaged, store-bought essentials (that kids tend to love!) are full of gluten, and a child with gastrointestinal issues may also have celiac disease. This means gluten can make them ill or, in worst-case scenarios, be potentially fatal.
Remember to ask about dietary restrictions and/or needs before the child arrives. Consider alternatives like gluten-free bread or pasta, or opt for naturally gluten-free, sugar-free, or dye-free foods to have on hand.
Create Easy Access to Medical Supplies
It’s important that your home is conducive to easy medicine management and administration. For example, it helps to always have an epinephrine pen handy for kids with severe allergies. Some disabilities, especially neurological ones, also require certain medications at specific times.
If you have medicine to administer, make sure that those items are always safely stored but also accessible. Having these supplies readily available is crucial as it allows you to respond quickly to any medical emergencies or needs that arise.
Creating A Proper Transition Plan For Disabled Foster Children
Above all, creating a strong, effective, and intentional transition plan for your foster children is so important. When planning happens, both you and your children will feel safe and supported.
Remember, too, that you are not alone!
And PS: Don’t be afraid to ask for help and rely on other family members, caretakers, doctors, and therapists to support you, too.
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